And How Intuitive Adventures Change Your Life For Good
I grew up the youngest of three children born to married parents in the Tidewater Area of Virginia. Both my parents suffered harsh childhoods. They did their level best to give us the most stable life possible. But something was always off. My environment was reliable but also emotionally bereft. It felt confusing and I was motivated from early on to make sense of the senseless.
I had a classic early adulthood: marriage, graduation from college then three beautiful children. There was ballet, gymnastics, band, soccer, baseball. All I did not have growing up. It was fun! I tried very hard like my mother before me with advantages of more education and decent prosperity. Eventually though, my childhood caught up with me.
Divorce and a number of years alone followed, still seeking to figure out what created the patterns that haunted me. Focusing on what I now call Horizontal Identity was going well. I had gone to graduate school and become a therapist. The exterior appearance of my life looked pretty good. My Facebook Profile showed it. Life looked good on the outside just like my first family. Yet none of what seemed to help my clients was working that great for me.
This was when I got serious about exploring intuition. I realized that my life evolved whenever I faced a great fear with courage that did not seem rational to me. The process would lead to learning how to check in on the deepest part of me, what I now refer to as my Vertical Identity. There were mentors along the way who had nothing to do with the therapy world. In fact the tools that helped most did not come from the hall of academia, or double blind studies or medication.
What helped was tuning in. It was learning to trust that deepest internal part of oneself and listening to that rather than taking the old paths.
It came from facing fears that were very real to me, like I would end up living under a bridge if I went into private practice.Or like thinking the ATMs in Germany would eat my credit card and I would be stuck with no money. I actually thought that before my first trip to Europe alone!
How did I even find the courage to go when I thought such ridiculous things? Getting in touch with my Vertical Identity (TM), and learning to listen to that instead of my fears. Over time and many such experiences I have developed a way to distill getting in touch with this part of yourself. It is a worthwhile trip and if read this far, perhaps we should talk.
Your Final Frontier
Have you sought to do that for your life with only short term results? Been on that trip a few times with only tee shirts to show for it?
It's A New Day grew out of my own personal development journey. In early 2020 I felt struck in one particular pattern I realized I had repeated too many times. While much of my life was going really well, my romantic relationship with a man I loved dearly was crashing and burning like others had before.
Relationship counseling was not the answer. I realized my best thinking had gotten me here...over and over again. I was the common denominator. It was me, not him no matter what my friends said.
I joined a personal development program instead of counseling out of desperation. Though ruthless self examination and the help of a great mentors, The light finally dawned. I began learning what I teach now.
I learned true change comes from getting to know and aligning with what I now refer to as one's Vertical Identity TM. From that beginning I have developed a process that can guide you to solid connection to your Vertical Identity. From there, intuitive decisions become automatic. You develop clarity about your path. Life becomes the adventure you knew it was meant to be.
And from that? Yes, your relationships benefit as well. Mine did. I married my beloved this year and the adventure continues.
My Skip It List
A "Not To Do" is something I have had suggested to me. For those of us who love a checklist to tick off, this is a cool tool and it is fun to get something done by NOT doing something.
The thing is he brain does not actually hear the word not. Don't think about a pink elephant. ( you weren't until I wrote that) A focus remains on those forbidden items. So this could ultimately be unproductive. Thus...
THE SKIP IT LIST
Skipping things, like skipping school when you are a kid or playing hooky from work to have a mental health day is inviting to me.
And skipping the things on this list definitely improves the quality of my life. I think skipping them would make life better for most people. What do you you think? What would you put on yours?